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CRAP I'VE MADE
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RAMBLINGS OF A MOTHER

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I Was Lost in the Laundry

The other morning I was watching a daily news program during my morning 15 Minutes of Silence (if you Mama’s out there don’t practice this habit, trust me, you need this! Start your day, before the kiddos wake up and the chaos ensues, with at least 15 minutes of only you, your fav coffee mug and whatever you fancy – Candy Crush, The Today Show, Facebook, planner planning, bible journaling, staring off into space, dreaming of going back to bed in 15 hours. Whatevs. You choose.)

And because wine is frowned upon in the mornings, this really is the next best thing. It is so good for the soul and for your AM ‘mom mood’.

Anyway, the reporter was discussing the increase of women reentering the workforce. They ended the segment for a commercial break with a question: “Why were so many women taking on ‘side hustles’ or choosing to become entrepreneurs?” It’s true.

I have noticed within my own inner circle of peeps that more and more of my beauteous women friends have either gone back to work, gone back to school, or have become distributors of skin care essentials, spatulas, herbal supplements, mascara etc. Here’s the thing – each one of my girlfriends appear truly proud of the business they represent.

Like, ‘shout it from the rooftops and tell everyone about it’ proud. I felt like I was right back in Mrs.White’s class in the 3rd grade. Raising my hand, flailing it around in the air, jumping up and down hoping the reporter would see me so I could answer his question. I knew why they had chosen to go back to work. Why they had chosen to say “yes” to themselves; “Ooooh! Oooooh! Pick me! I know! I know! Pick meeeeee!” It was so obvious: They were lost in the laundry! Duh!

Okay, so obviously these women are not lost in the laundry.

At least not in the literal sense (I hope). Although, sometimes the piles around here are so high this might actually be possible. {Sooo, if you don’t hear from me for a while, you know where to look.} For some women the choice to go back to work stems strictly from a financial standpoint -and we all can agree that extra moolah for Target shopping is never a bad thing- I do believe there are also women who are simply feeling lost. And I was most definitely lost.

You see, I have been a mom since I was 17.

It’s one of the few things I have consistently done in my adult years. And I don’t say that out of spite. It has just been my life for almost 20 years. I love my mom job more than anything, and I wouldn’t change a single thing that has led me to where I am. But, once upon a time, I was just a girl named Kristin. A nerd introvert that loved watching movies, reading anything I could get my hands on, writing stories and jamming to Rod Stewart while imagining my wedding to the Dirty Dancing version of Patrick Swayze.

And I had some plans. Some BIG life plans.

There was a moment a year or so ago that I found myself on the floor of my bedroom sobbing. It was one of those really ugly cries, my friends. Most likely due to the fact that my oldest son was making his own big plans.

Huge life changes were in his horizon. He spent his evenings after school and work applying for grants and scholarships. My baby was in the midst of deciding which college to enroll in and in turn, choosing a major he would earn a degree in that would eventually serve him and his future family for the rest of their lives.

And while I was blowing (honking) my nose into my tissues all alone, it occurred to me that the last time I knew what I was good at, knew what I was truly passionate about -other than my family, of course- was when I was a teenager preparing for a future that would never materialize. I had lost myself in these past 20 years.

I was so caught up in the laundry, the cleaning, the cooking, grocery shopping and taxi driving, the sports and the after-school clubs, the play dates and the PTO meetings that I wasn’t quite sure where I fit into all of this.

Where did I go? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love volunteering in my kids’ schools. I love that my kids are involved in activities and sports. And I really freaking love being their mom. But, who the heck was I anymore? Was I really just a non-yoga practicing, yoga pant wearing, messy bun rocking, soccer mom? What did I like to do? Did I have a hobby? Could I even say I had interests? I honestly didn’t know anymore.

I remember reading somewhere that journal writing helped to clear the mind and ease anxiety. So, I started there.

Once I began writing, it was like a flood of feelings overwhelmed me.

I remembered how much I adored taking a pen to paper. The journal writing then led me to start a ‘stupid blog that no one would want to read’. The stupid blog led me to start an Instagram page where I could share all of the crap I’ve made for my home. And guess what I realized? I was actually good at something that didn’t begin and end with an ‘m’ and have an ‘o’ in between! And most importantly, in the journaling, the stupid blog and the IG page, I found myself! It was like myself and I picked up right where we left off all those years ago.

I mean, sure, we were both a bit older and a smidge wiser with possibly a few gray hairs.

She was obviously a little worse for wear after being lost so long in that dang laundry, but all-in-all, we were …

My Kids Would Make Crappy Friends

When your child makes a bad friend, your response determines your child's future social skills.

In the world of adults, we worry about our husbands having a drunken friend, or our wives having a best friend who likes to have an affair with someone, because we worry about the people around us being led astray, and we firmly believe that "those who are close to the vermilion are red, and those who are close to the ink are black." !

The writer Goethe also said, "As long as you tell me what kind of people you have, I can say, what kind of people you are."

This is true for adults, let alone children who are not familiar with the world. We will be more worried that he is not careful to make friends and learn bad!

  • Parents need to pay attention. Tom's mother was worried recently. She heard from the school teacher that Tom likes to bully children at school,give them nicknames, laugh at them, and join several children to fight against disobeying the teacher! He never used to be like this! When asked, we learned that Tom recently made a new friend, the child likes to do this, he found it interesting, so follow the example! Mom reminded him not to play with this child, but Tom didn't listen: "I want to play with him"!

The simple and brutal way to cut off your child from his friends is counterproductive!

Xiao Ran is a 13-year-old girl who just graduated from elementary school, but this child who was originally quiet and understanding suddenly turned bad at the age of 12. Irritable, irritable, disobedient, confrontational to mom and dad! Also often play with delinquent teenagers in the name of making friends, learned to smoke, drink, late, late at night, and even stay out all night …… turned out to be a female classmate of Xiaoran, often take her out to play.

The parents had no choice but to consult a psychologist and were reminded to realize that the time when the child became bad was the time when Xiaoran's father cheated and her parents quarreled every day. The two of them were fighting every day. Xiao Ran found that only when she was out late at night did her mom and dad stop fighting and make a concerted effort to find her, so she became more aggressive and just wanted a better relationship between mom and dad!

Sometimes a child's "bad behavior" is determined by a combination of factors. Such as family conflicts, parental indifference, insufficient family discipline, parents not teaching him the right concept of friendship, the child's own preferences, etc. Friends are not necessarily the direct cause of a child's bad behavior, but they are definitely one of the causes!

Parents need to pay attention to and help their children to build good peer relationships!

02 What does peer relationships mean to a child?


According to Francis Bacon, "The lack of true friends is the purest and most pitiful loneliness, and without friendship the world of ours is but a wilderness."

Developmental psychologists such as Piaget have also suggested that children have "two worlds in childhood, one in which parents and children interact, and one in which peers interact.

How important are peer relationships to children?
Research shows that 70% of human conversation time and content is related to socialization. The need for socialization is an innate psychological need. When children develop peer relationships, they are actually satisfying their social needs.

Psychologist Harlow, known as Mr. Monkey, did an "isolation experiment" with rhesus monkeys. To study the social behavior of monkeys without peer interaction. He bred a large number of rhesus monkeys. As soon as the young were born, he divided them into the following three living environments.

Complete isolation, no mother, no peers
living with only the mother and no companions
Only companions living together, no mother

Six months later the study showed that:
Monkeys that lived only with their mothers lacked maternal affection and were closely attached to their companions, who could act as partial substitutes for their mothers and had social behaviors. But not enough to have the same security effects as their mothers to interact normally with other members outside the group.

The mother-only monkey, however,which has an abnormal behavior pattern, is either avoidant or aggressive toward strangers, and suffers from social impairment.

Long-term interaction with peers can give children a sense of security and belonging, a relaxed, lively and pleasant mood, and emotional and affective development in a direction appropriate to social requirements, enabling them to adapt better to society in the future.

If a child is not able to have a good peer relationship, he or she will have difficulty adapting to school life and will be depressed and depressed, and will not be able to learn in a good state of learning.

Good peer relationships have a great impact on a child's mental health and can directly affect social patterns later in life.

03 How can parents appropriately control the world of children?
Choosing friends is a prudent thing to do." Good friends can work with children to move forward; bad friends can pull children down into the abyss. Therefore, parents must have control over their children's peer relationships!

When children want to get close to him and sit down near him, he will say, "I don't like you, go away and ignore you".

When playing together, he would dislike others who moved too slowly: "You're too stupid, I'll do it for you".

Gradually, children no longer like to play with him. Once the children played the game "Let's invite someone", and he was the only one who was not invited ……

Like Xiao Xi, or Tom mentioned above, when you find that your child suddenly has bad behavior, such as starting to curse, ridicule, speak badly, some toys inexplicably, or suddenly start to often lose their temper or silence, it is likely that your child's peer relationship has some situation. …

So Exhausted Mom’s Overview to Camping with Children

I simply mean to figure out what you're going to eat during the trip as a whole-- one day hot-dogs, one day pizza pies, one day meat and potatoes, etc.

If you are camping for an extensive size of time as well as will certainly be making lots of outdoor camping quits along the road, prepare for a couple of days to a week of food at once. Many camping sites have general stores within them for emergency situation products (camper devices, components for repair work or standard medication) and also outdoor camping essentials (ice, failed to remember marshmallows, a container of soup or a quart of milk) however anticipate to pay even more for these things.

Hanging Footwear Storage Space.
I prefer the heavy-duty canvas hangers to the cheap dollar store plastic ones, but either will serve the purpose!

We pack one pair of shower shoes (flip flops), one pair of creek walkin' or river wadin' shoes and one pair of tennis shoes.

Following Time Checklist
I maintain a note pad and also a pen in the camper so I can draw up my Following Time Listing at the end of each journey.

Apparel.
We have actually camped in a camping tent, in a pop-up as well as currently we have actually "updated" to a half a century old smaller sized traveling trailer.

Light.
A couple of cheap solar lights are an excellent means to light the camping tent, your camper or your barbecue table will be without stressing over expansion cables everywhere.

Supply listings--
This is not something I toss with each other the day previously.

Plastic Drawers.

Insect Follower.

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